THE LAMPLIGHTER CHAPTERS
Sometimes, I can’t see the wood for the trees. I feel anxious and stare into the night. I worry about everyone. I worry about all the things that could happen way off in the future and all the things that may never happen, just in case. Sound familiar?
Sometimes, I worry about myself. I wonder how I’ll manage on a couple of hours sleep (after all the worrying) and if I might be able to get to the bathroom before the tears run down my cheeks. Finding my inner strength doesn’t always come easy.
Here are some of the ways I practice using my inner voice to help me find my inner strength.
- Hold space for yourself
If I find myself in the bathroom stressed out and ready to cry, I allow myself three to five minutes behind the door to do just that! Then I emerge fresh-faced and smiling again, ready to take on the world. I feel a little better knowing I held that space for myself and gave myself some grace. I am only human. I can only carry so much. It’s ok for me to find a release of tension by crying it out occasionally. My strength isn’t in doing it all, it’s in knowing my limits.
- Whisper an affirmation to yourself, even if you don’t believe it yet
In troublesome times I tell myself it will pass. I affirm it to myself like a crazy person and have it as a screen saver on my phone. A reminder that nothing is forever.
When I cry, I tell myself, “I am so strong.”
I know it’s true. I endure, I keep showing up. I don’t quit unless quitting is the next right thing. I tell myself these things because I have to believe in me. I have to love myself. I have to know I am enough and can do hard things.
- When the load feels too heavy, put it down for a while. The world will wait
Sometimes I cancel. I don’t cook dinner, I don’t read the bedtime story and I get into bed with my clothes on because thats the best I can do right now. Its still my best. Resting and working on my mental health today means that I will feel more able tomorrow. I do not have to do all the things, for all the people, all the time and neither do you.
- Choose at least one small act of kindness toward yourself each day.
Read the book, take the bath, sit in a cafe and have someone make you coffee. Go for a walk, sit on a bench and watch the world go by.
“Hard” will pass. I am still strong. And so are you. Everything will be alright.
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7 responses to “Finding Your Inner Strength With Affirmations And Self Love”
This is so true and your words resonate. Those moments are hard. It’s reassuring to know that it’s not only me that feels this way. The feelings do pass but only if we hold them, acknowledge them, then let them go. Thanks as always for being so open!
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I’m really glad my post spoke to you and affirmed you are not alone. I think there are many wonderful things to be positive about each day if we look for them but it is not always easy when life throws curveballs. Remembering it isn’t meant to be easy held me to remember I am strong! I hope you know you are too. Much love x
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I remember moments like this too. I found that it was ok to cancel out for the day, back off from the kids and let them do their own thing, and it often worked out that they achieved so much and we had a super day. After all, breeding independence is what we’re heading for. I have a great saying now for those overwhelming worrying times: take care of the task in hand and let nature take care of the rest. You could adapt that to say; take care of the day and let nature take care of the rest. It usually works. Good luck! Have a great day!
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Very good advice! It is amazing just how much can be achieved when we take a back seat and stay out of the way! Haha.
Yes Ross, I like your take on it and will adopt the phrase.
Thankyou for taking time to comment. I have replied to our earlier conversation elsewhere and look forward to hearing from you as and when you’re next online.
Have a wonderful week.
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