THE LAMPLIGHTER CHAPTERS

One of the wonderful things I discovered as an adult was that I could and would have different friends for different things. Now I’m an older adult I realise just how necessary it is to keep it that way. Every woman needs a friendship circle. Looking to find complete fulfillness and enrichment from one person is unrealistic. No one can be all the things to all the people, all the time. No one. It’s unhealthy and unreasonable to expect any one person to fulfil that role.

As a parent, there is an expectation that we will be exactly that to our children. Even more so, we want to and we try to be. Years past, as the old saying goes, (it would have been wholeheartedly accepted) to raise a child, would take a village.

I have been sure to tell all my children over and over, “Different friends for different things.”

I have a shortlist of woman whom I could not be without, what about you?

The Auntie/Sister-In-Law Figure

Where would I be without the friend who helps me, help my children. Never judging or thinking less of me. The one who’s always reassuring me that I am a great mum.

The Loyal & Shit’s Hit The Fan Friend

The friend who has my back. Who would take me in in the dead of night if needed without question. Just lots of tea, sympathetic tears and understanding.

The Sisters

The two like sisters, who I can laugh with and talk about womanhood. Who love my children and hurt when I hurt. Who live far away but never leave. The ones who’ll grow old with me.

The Witness Protection Plan

The two that have known me forever. The secret keepers. They know my family and love me anyway!

The “Sex And The City” Types

The three without filters. Real. Nothing is off the table. Sex, Love. Life. Tears, Laughter. The rawest rolemodels who arent afraid to age. They show me how to embrace it fully. They also call out my bullshit. My voices of reason.

The Mamma Bear

And the one who never ever said a single thing to hurt me, ever. The one who taught me how to be true to my heart and how to love large. Who taught me everything about being a gentle parent. 

Build Support Not Perfection

In a world that’s full of Fake News, Unrealistic Aesthetics and a Constant Pressure to be perfect, it’s no wonder women need a friendship circle now more than ever! Let’s show our children that we are human. That real connections, expectations and true friendships, count for so much more than trying to do it all.

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