I thought I’d share some of my less popular opinions and lesser known facts about myself, with you all over a few posts. Just for fun. I’m comfortable with the knowledge that you may feel differently. It’s OK.

Did you know that I don’t like spending all my time with my children?

Try as I might and being as open as I can be to having my mind changed, I just do not like, agree with or want my children to be around me in certain situations.

I don’t mind talking to them about other sides of myself that they may not know so well. When I’m not Mum but Juliette instead. I’m happy to share lots of stories with them. But I don’t always want them privy to my private conversations or actions. My innermost thoughts and worries or desires.

I don’t think we should ever fully “know” our parents in the same way that there will be things my children experience in life that they choose not to share with me. I’m not talking about severing the closeness or bond between parents and children who tell each other “everything.” I want for mine to feel this way with me, but I understand there will be some things they won’t want to discuss with their mother for fear it taint my view. It is in our nature to care what people think.

I am a mother to my children first and to me they will always be my children. I respect & honour their growth and becoming adults who I can have deeper relationships with, being able to talk about things one wouldn’t to a child for example.

But, I don’t enjoy having my children with me when I might want to be just, Juliette. Where I might want to confide in friends, get worked up and vent. I might want to tell an inappropriate inside joke, ask for parenting advice or just spend time with my friends who see me as someone completely different to the mother my children know.

I don’t enjoy having children around alcohol. I don’t enjoy sharing the same conversation space at adult parties with my grown up children. I enjoy them being there but I like for them to be with their crowd. It makes me happy to see them having fun with their friends. Allowing each other space.
Flitting in & out of our shared family life.

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